Today my blogger friend and I had a very in-depth discussion on the battle of authenticity as a blogger and as a person in general. She and I always seem to understand one another and it got me to thinking that both this inner battle and this very public battle are probably not uncommon among our peers.
As a fashion and lifestyle focused blogger, I personally feel a constant pressure to follow current trends. In fact my whole business is dependent on it. We promote the brands that people want to see…well… for the most part anyways. I mean let’s face it, that’s what society tells us we have to do right? People always tend to want the next hot item or all want to go to the newest hot spot. I’m VERY guilty of this but the truth is I actually like trying new “hot” things. I find it exciting and liberating to say “Yeah, I have that” or “Yeah, I’ve been there”. I don’t feel guilty about it either because I feel like I am following trends that are already within my realm of interest. Maybe I am just authentically inauthentic?? Just kidding!
However, once in a while I get this feeling inside that says “ugh, everyone has this” or “I don’t want to do this” BECAUSE everyone has it/has done it and I end up doing it anyways because either a) I have to for business purposes or 2) because I feel it might help me get one step closer to the status/level success I am hoping to achieve. I think we’ve all felt it at some point in our lives and I think it’s our gut telling us we’re not being true to ourselves at that point in time.
In addition to this, I find it interesting that not only are most bloggers working towards the same goal and doing similar things (hopefully within as much of our own ways as possible), but that we are also highly competitive with one another. All scraping our ways to the top of the ladder to collaborate with the biggest brands and some of us pushing each other down to get up there. It’s sad, and sometimes really hurtful when this happens because a lot of these times these people are your friends. I have seen it happen, I have experienced it and it sucks.
That being said, I have also have seen the complete opposite of this behavior and I find myself feeling really lucky to have met such great peers like Eleni McMullin and Randa Salloum who work their asses off and stay true to themselves. They never sell themselves short and are always uplifting their peers and working hard to give everyone equal opportunities. In fact without them, I wouldn’t have had half of mine. These girls keep me motivated to tough it out even when I feel like throwing in the towel and they keep me real, or as real as I want to be at that point in time and I love them for it. I’m happy to have their examples of authenticity in my life and hope that I can inspire my readers/peers the same way they inspire me. Love you guys!
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